FILLED OF THINGS THAT WERE DONE IN FIRST 100 DAYS IN DENMARK (DAY 85)

DAY 85---August 11, 2009


Once, a friend asked me what my view on sex is. I remember this “editorial view” article that I wrote because I feel that being in Europe I am near in temptation. All of what I’ve heard and seen give me a connotation that sex is fine and it is a must in everyday life. So, I read it and it came back to my mind what my stand really is.

>>January 16, 2009

My view on sex affects what culture we have right here (I know it is different there). We have a conservative type of society. Still, it is taboo to discuss sex, masturbation etc. especially, women to men and vice versa. Also, parents have a hard time to discuss that to their children and many organizations are against to teach sex education in schools. And I think it is the reason why teenage pregnancy is rampant nowadays. They learned sex with their friends and engaged themselves to it out of curiosity.

Sex is more than a union of body. It also a union of mind, soul and spirit. It means is it not just for fun or for lust. Sex is spelled as L-O-V-E. It is a God-given desire, a gift intended to give us pleasure and express our intimacy. But, the church taught me that God intended sex to be enjoyed between a man and a woman in marriage. Same as marriage, sex is also sacred. And I am strongly agree with this.

Same in masturbation, I agree that Bible doesn’t specifically mention whether it isright and wrong. However, all of life's pleasures have an appropriate context. Any misuse of legitimate pleasure has bad consequences. I read in one article “Sexual pleasure shouldn't serve merely as a "pressure valve" for the release of physical and emotional tension. There are more constructive, loving ways to release -- and even to harness -- our physical and emotional tension.” But how?


I don’t deny that I didn’t do these. I engaged myself to it because of love. And I felt satisfaction, love, pleasure and care. I know I should wait. Virginity is the most precious gift that I could ever give to my husband. I thought he is the one. We taught we will end up together. But I don’t regret those things. I’m just a human. I made mistakes but the most important part of it -- I learned. And now, I am very careful and cautious. I want to take every moment step by step. Afraid to make mistakes again. But I am closing my minds that I will not do it anymore. I know someday I’ll give in. As long as there’s a love, I am willing to give myself to him. But I think I’ll be more cautious about it.


Is this subject to a debate again?